Thanks to Kayla for an awesome fit mom featured post and perspective. Kayla blogs over at Fit For Moms. You can also follow Kayla on Twitter at @fitformommas. This post was originally shared on New Leaf Wellness, but it is so good, and resonates with so many moms, that we are sharing it here too!
I feel like I should start this post as if I am at an AA meeting. “Hi, I am Kayla and I’m the wife of an airline pilot…” B and I met in college and we always knew that his career choice would mean travel and time away. Yet here we are 5 years of marriage and 2 awesome daughters (ages 3 and 1) later finding ourselves still learning to balance time apart, time together and time alone. Currently, 70% of the time I am home solo with our girls…did I mention I have a full-time job and that I’m training for my first marathon? Time is not necessarily something I have a lot of – so when I do have time – I prefer it is well spent.Over the past 5 years, specifically the last 3 – I have really started to focus on how to balance exercise, eating well, mommy-hood and being a great wife to B – even when work takes him clear across the world. In reality, all I need to do is harness my inner superwoman. I’m going to let you in on 4 of my secrets. But shhhh….it takes a lot to be superwoman, so don’t go and tell everyone where you got your power.
1. Carve out time in your day for yourself for exercise – whether it is 10 minutes or 2 hours…getting your sweat on will always feel good. I am lucky to have a job that is flexible (so I start closer to 9 most days) and a fabulous daycare for the girls. I drop them off and head out for a run or to our local gym. Sweat + strength = one rejuvenated momma.
2. Plan and prep your meals on the weekend (or whenever you have a good chunk of time). On one of the days that B is home, I try to get all of my cooking/prep work done for the entire next week. I religiously use Once A Month Mom and her fabulous meal plans. When I get home from work and haven’t seen the girls all day – the last thing I want to do is cook. Planning ahead lets me either toss something in the crock pot in the morning or easily warm it up in the oven – and still get a healthy meal on the table quickly.
3. Be productive quickly. As soon as I get the girls to sleep, I set a timer for 30 minutes. I wash dishes, clean the counters, toss a load of laundry in, take the garbage out – whatever needs to be done to keep our house “in working order.” But, the timer helps me not try to do too much and ensures that I get time for myself each evening. I could easily clean and do “chores” all night – but I thrive on having some ‘Kayla time’ each night to sit down with a good book.
4. Fake it. Let’s be honest. There are times where I would like to pull my hair out and trying to balance all of this gets the best of me. My answer? Tell myself that I am strong, awesome and truly superwoman. It usually does the trick.
It isn’t always easy being a mom and a wife. It is a balancing act. One that has led to the greatest adventure I have ever been on. Even if it is just a few minutes a day that I wear my cape – I feel like superwoman when I get a great workout in, serve a delicious and healthy meal, have a well-kept house or just feel the occasional spurt of awesomeness. Most of all – finding a way to create a balance in my life that allows me to just enjoy and cherish every second with my husband and daughters – that is when I feel the most like superwoman.